Friendship with Your Former Partner

Friendship. It is often our last resort with someone who failed to have a successful or lasting relationship with. It could be considered as our so called consolation prize. The question most have in mind is, “Could we really get over our ex-partner and have a good ‘just friends’ relationship?”

The answer to this question may differ for a lot of people. On one hand, some people are better off with being given the answer of “No”. This people are the ones who have fallen so deep in love that they never pictured themselves with another partner. They pictured themselves with the same partner for all eternity. If these people truly want to be able to move on from their heartache, they must learn to let go completely. They have to try to avoid the other person as much as possible. This may seem a bit of an extreme but truly that is how it should be. Just having a glimpse of the one we used to be with brings about so much emotion and memories that could trigger a relapse of our previous feeling that we are trying so hard to let go of.

On the other hand, others may find that it is still possible to maintain a good friend relationship with their previous partners. These are usually true for people who had mutual breakups. These are the breakups that weren’t caused by fights or disloyalty. These are usually the types of breakups that both persons in the couple agree that they are not really compatible with each other. The problem with these breakups though is that somehow, they may be seen as an escape. Maybe there really was a problem and both persons were too afraid to face it. Getting back to the question’s point, a friendship could really be possible in this situation.

Staying as friends after a breakup could be possible depending on the circumstances that caused the breakup. You just have to be able to distinguish for yourself which group you belong too; the ones that should let go totally or the ones that could still maintain a friend relationship.